You are allowed to want what you want.
And you can have it too. This course helps you gain the clarity, develop the boundaries and cultivate the alignment to call in the life and love you have been waiting for.

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Live Your Standards

Who Do You Desire?

Do you have the life and the relationship you’ve always wanted?

When you were young and dreamed of what life would be like and who you would love... what did you dream of?

Has it turned out that way?

If not, then do you know why not?

What happened?

And if you had a way to get back on that path that you feel your heart yearning for... would you take it?

Your Standards create the life you experience

What you are willing to accept is what you will attract

What are you letting into your life, and what are you keeping out of it?

Life is always throwing things at you.

People, experiences, opportunities.

In a way the universe is asking you...

“What do you want?”

Your Standards are the signal that responds.

Anything you say “yes” to, you will get more of.

Anything you say “no” to, you will get less of.

Whether we meant to or not.

Whether it was our wounds talking.

Whether we were people-pleasing

Whether we were hoping for their potential to shine

Or we were going along because we were too scared that we wouldn’t find anything else.

The result will be the same. More or less... it all happens inside you.

“Holding a standard is the courage to say NO to everything that isn’t what you truly want, and the awareness to say YES to what is”

The #Standards course takes you on a journey of understanding, embodying and attracting your deepest desires to you.

You will start to realise that life is happening FOR you and not TO you.

You get to choose.

The benefits of #standards

Who You Will Become

In order to change the conditions of our life, we have to change ourselves on the inside. Developing standards is so much more than knowing what you don’t want... it’s becoming a match for what you do.


Know with unshakable conviction exactly what it is you truly want


Deeper trust to receiving the life and relationships you desire


Own the strength to say NO to everything that pulls you down


Become a vibrational match to your heart’s yearning

Course modules

Become a match to your dreams

Each module contains information and practices to bring you closer to your deepest desires

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Module 1

  • Discover what you really want
  • Preferences vs true standards
  • Compromises & non-negotiables

Module 2

  • Entitlement & Effacement
  • Reciprocity is the secret ingredient
  • Being who you want

Module 3

  • Elegant boundaries
  • The energetics of YES & NO
  • Becoming permeable to a beautiful life

Module 4

  • Surrendering into Trust
  • Masculine & Feminine alignment
  • The currency of vibration

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Frequently Asked Questions

Your burning questions answered here:

How is the course structured?

The complete #Standards course runs for 8 weeks as a live cohort.

Each week, starting 22nd January, new content is released…

  • Around 20 minutes of activating theory to understand the process
  • A practice for that week. Either a journal exercise, guided meditation, or embodiment practice
  • A micro-practice for that week. Something that you can weave easily into your day to create small but super-important shifts
  • A community task. A way to share and be held accountable together on the journey on our community platform.

It's designed to be potent, and yet not take up very much actual time… working more on activating vibrations of change within you.

Additionally, each week there is a support call, a place to ask questions, and get direct coaching and guidance, as well as the community space to share the journey, interact and ask questions.

What time and dates are the live support calls?

The live calls alternate timezones each week, so that no matter where you live you should be able to attend one of them.

Tuesdays Jan 23rd, Feb 6th, Feb 20th, March 5th

1.00 - 2.00 pm PST

4.00 - 5.00 pm EST

9.00 - 10.00 pm GMT

10.00 - 11.00 pm CET

(8.00 - 9.00 am AEDT + 1 day)

Wednesdays Jan 31st, Feb 14th, Feb 28th, March 13th

8.30 - 9.30 am GMT

9.30 - 10.30 am CET

7.30 - 8.30 pm AEDT

If you are unable to make the live calls, do not worry… as they are recorded, AND you can still ask your questions inside the platform, and I'm looking forward to creating video answers too, so that this becomes a living, breathing library of transformation and inspiration.

Do I get to keep the course after it's finished?


Once the live part of the course finishes, you will have lifetime access to all the content.

All the videos, practices and live session recordings are yours to keep access to if you need to go over it again at any time... or if life means you get out of sync with the journey and you need to do it on your own time.

Will I find my soulmate if I do this course?


We obviously can't guarantee that.

But what we can say, is that you will be a LOT more aligned to meeting a great match for you.

The subtle ways we block love from finding us are significant, and this course will teach you both how to get clarity on what you want, and to unravel all the pieces holding you back from finding it.

You will certainly be in a better position to be ready for it than when you started the course, that is for sure!

What makes this course different from others?

In a way... this is like practical manifestation.

We will be working on pragmatic principles utilising clarity, embodiment and boundaries to create alignment.

This is not a "wish it and hope" approach, rather it is about becoming fiercely clear on what it is you want, so you can cut out all the noise.

From there it is about ensuring you are actually a match, that you get the 'right' signal so that you are looking for the kind of person that is looking for you.

Finally we use masculine/feminine principles to create the magnetism for it to actualise.

Do you have a money back guarantee?

We fully believe in the work we do.

If you sign up for the course, participate in all the exercises, follow along with all the content, and really give it your all... and still feel dissatisfied then write to us.

Our first point of call will be to find a way to support you to get the most out of this work, because we know it's not really about the money.

It's about the hope that this would help you find the love you ache for, and the pain of feeling that it won't.

If we can't find a way to help you through the challenges limiting your results, then we will offer money back.

Our refund rate however is incredibly low, less than 1% so we are absolutely confident in what we do.


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"I wish i had known 20 years ago that this work is soooo essential. My lover suddenly feels soft and surrendered in my clarity, safe in how i hold our container with her in mind...Beautiful, expanding, grounding....This is much needed on my life's journey... Highly recommend."

Patrick Wolf

Film work-flow Analyst

"This has been a revelation that reshaped the way I connect with people. If you're seeking a journey of self-discovery, and want more fulfilling relationships, Evolve Relating is your compass. An investment in yourself that weaves transformative threads."

Denise Ferris


"Damien’s work is an incredible study on the nature of intimacy & secure relating. He has a remarkable way of opening this field up to to new layers of insight that go far beyond the fairly fixed ideas we see in the mainstream. His work has hugely impacted my personal & professional practice as a devotee of the intimate arts and as a facilitator and coach."

Alex Mischka

Men’s Coach

"I decided to do this work because I noticed that people who had, had changed dramatically for the better in their relating skills. Damien creates a space that is both edgy and safe, moving us beyond established paradigms... into new realms of relating and intimacy"

Andreas Notarpietro


"I’m starting to experience levels of intimacy I only dreamed were possible, in all my relationships and with myself. I see so many shifts in how my lover and I relate, the beauty of it makes me cry."

Rachel Bull

Somatic Guide


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Continue your journey to Secure Intimacy…
Everything contained in LIVE
9 complete courses (see list below)
All upcoming scheduled full courses
Self-study course portal
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Course Instructor
Damien Bohler
Founder & Facilitator

Damien is the founder of Evolve Relating. He has been facilitating, teaching and coaching for 10+ years. His gift is in the synthesising of complex concepts into practical ways to grow. He weaves together authentic relating, attachment theory, polarity and awakening techniques into a holistic system of relational transformation.

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