Become a Secure Relater
You are here because you know that more is possible.
You know that relationships can be deep, passionate AND safe.
You are tired of the conflict, of getting into relationships with the wrong people, of the pain, hurt and disappointment.
You yearn to be met, to love and be loved, to feel adoration and devotion.
You are ready for so much more.
Secure Intimacy for…
Our community container is safe, supportive, empowering and inclusive. No matter who you are and where you are on your journey, there is a space for you here. Anxious, avoidant or otherwise... healing for all.
Your Intimacy Timeline
Psychology studies estimate that developing a secure attachment takes 2-5 years of consistent therapeutic work.
With the right support, practices and community, however, we believe that process can be accelerated.
The first 3 months
You start to really understand your attachment system and defence strategies. You learn how to be more vulnerable, regulate yourself, embody your boundaries and release some of the trauma holding you back.
3- 6 months
The weight of past trauma starts clearing from your body, you feel lighter. You are able to repair much more easily after conflict, stand for your own needs and bring yourself back to a regulated state when triggered.
6 - 12 months
Your triggers become positive healing experiences. Your boundaries are becoming more embodied and you are showing up increasingly open and authentic in intimacy.
1 - 2 years
Deeper attachment patterns start to surface as they are cleared permanently. Intimacy is more beautiful than ever before. You feel at ease being yourself, both giving and receiving love without defence.
The Secure Intimacy membership includes all of this:
Attend live, or utilise the recording library. These classes are the foundation of this work. By practicing regularly you will find yourself less triggered, with stronger boundaries while letting go of past traumas.
Authentic Relating Practice Classes
To have great relationships, we need great communication. This is really the starting point, it all grows from here.
Upgrade your relating skills by attending these facilitated, practice sessions.
Every month we go deeper into understanding our attachment system and how to transform pain into security, and security into joy.
Join live or watch the recordings.
Guest Educators & Facilitators
Presentations, workshops and classes led by powerful healers and facilitators of transformative relational work. Attend sessions live or access the recording library.
New presenter every month.
Community of Peers
The community is your space. Meet people live in classes, continue the conversation in discussion and chat. Get your questions answered. Celebrate your growth. Evolve together. You are not alone!
Drop-in and receive guidance on your unique challenges and growth path. Your input influences the direction in which this program unfolds. Your personal evolution matters.
Get immediate access to a catalogue of potent healing courses. Choose your own adventure, heal and grow in the direction that your soul is pulling you. More below.
This membership program is designed to also evolve. There is much more to be revealed… when we say “everything you need for Secure Intimacy”, we mean it.
Your Secure Intimacy Courses:
Combined price of all these courses: Over $1200
Combined value of learning the material in them... priceless.
How much do you think the relationship of your dreams is worth?
Live classes in the Secure Intimacy membership
And you also get access to live drop in classes every week!
Learn the course content in an ongoing facilitated container.
Meet other community members.
Access ALL new material!
Authentic Relating :: Validation
A crucial skill for secure intimacy. AU + EU Timezone
Group Coaching + Q&A session. AU + US Timezone.
Authentic Relating :: Curiosity
To go deeper in a relationship, we need this skill. AU + US Timezone
Embodiment Gym :: Meeting Anger
We access healthy anger but expanding the range of how much of it we can hold. AU + EU Timezone
When your relationships heal, your life changes.
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Get immediate access to all courses, the community and all upcoming live classes
Enter a journey into creating the foundations for your deepest intimacy yet.
For those desiring more contact & an assisted path through the program.
Enter a profound journey into creating a secure foundation for intimacy.
For the couple desiring to go deeper
Fill out this form to apply to work privately with Damien Bohler to develop your Secure Intimacy.
Let us know a little bit about you and where you are most wanting to grow. You will be contacted via email or message asap.
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The educators, teachers, facilitators, presenters and guides that will be journeying with you...
Founder & Facilitator
Facilitator & Admin
Frequently Asked Questions
Your most common questions answered
That's really up to you.
We've created this membership in a way that it can be as active an experience as you need it to be.
At minimum you could invest an 1-2 hours a week which would allow you to learn many of the principles, whether through courses or live classes, do some of the practices and participate in the community.
Or you can come to many of the classes and really immerse yourself in the experience.
However much you participate, the reality is you will be learning relational skills that you can apply to your day-to-day life, which is where the transformation will occur.
Yes you can.
This membership is designed in a special way so that you can join anytime and find your feet quickly.
Our onboarding sequence guides you quickly into understanding your way around the platform, and where to start.
Everything inside the membership is interconnected.
The courses support each other, and the live classes support the courses.
Depending on when you join, there will be peers who have been in for a while to guide and support you, as you will be able to for others in time if you so choose.
When you are ready, we are here.
We are a respectful, polite and safe community... and we also encourage community.
You will meet people on live calls and in the chat and discussion spaces.
If you stay a while, you are certain to make friends, and maybe even meet someone who could be more...
No, there are no refunds.
You may cancel at any time, however.
However, we are certain you are going to want to stay once you get to fully experience what's inside! ;)
Yes, it's easy to cancel.
In our onboarding sequence we show you exactly how to manage your membership, and changing the payment frequency or ending your subscription is as easy as two clicks!
Most of our live sessions repeat at two different timezones that manage to cover most major areas across the US, Europe and Australasia.
As we grow, even more timezones and classes will become available.
This is something we are very excited about!
There is an entire community platform dedicated to holding this container.
Forums, chat spaces, courses, classes, private messaging.. better than Facebook guaranteed!
The community is also moderated so that it is a truly safe and healing space for everyone.
No, as this is subscription based.
You will only have access to the courses, live classes, community and recordings as long as you stay in the membership.
If you stay in the membership for more than 3 months though, when you do leave, you will be able to purchase any courses you'd like to retain access to for a discount
Most of them, yes.
Workshops, Lectures, Embodiment Gym and Guest Facilitator sessions are all recorded. Recordings available within 24 hours.
The only classes not recorded are the Authentic Relating classes and the community calls as these are primarily experiential and mostly take place in breakout rooms with a partner.
As soon as your payment is processed you will be able to create a profile in our community and access all courses straight away.
You will be able to RSVP and join any upcoming live classes, post and interact in the community and immerse yourself in the journey.
Life gets better when you are secure
The relationship you have been yearning for awaits you, will you be ready?