Everything you need for thriving secure & passionate relationships

Our Secure Intimacy membership program immerses you in the community, courses, tools and practices that will support you into having the thriving relationships you want… all for less than the cost of one therapy session a month.

Evolve Intimacy

Become a Secure Relater

You are here because you know that more is possible.

You know that relationships can be deep, passionate AND safe.

You are tired of the conflict, of getting into relationships with the wrong people, of the pain, hurt and disappointment.

You yearn to be met, to love and be loved, to feel adoration and devotion.

You are ready for so much more.

Join the membership and enter a container for your deepest healing & growth

Be held in your Journey

Immerse yourself in the work, and experience the benefits as you transform from the inside out

How many courses have you started and not finished?

How often have you felt the power while in a workshop or course, only for it to fade when it ends?

Join the membership and enter a container for your deepest healing & growth

“The environment you immerse yourself in has the strongest influence on who you become”

Whether you are new, or have been journeying for a while, it is undoubtable that your most powerful growth comes when you are surrounded by those who see you, support you and lift you up.

The Secure Intimacy membership is a container and crucible designed for YOUR healing and growth, with everything you need to create the relationships you most want.

All you have to do is show up, and we will be with you every step of the way.

Benefits of joining

Secure Intimacy for…

Our community container is safe, supportive, empowering and inclusive. No matter who you are and where you are on your journey, there is a space for you here. Anxious, avoidant or otherwise... healing for all.

Single & Seeking

Prepare for your best relationship yet! Learn the skills and tools to both find the right person, go as deep as you want with them and create something truly magical


Gain the support and practices to overcome challenges, open vulnerably, heal your wounds, grow new capacities together and fall in love all over again.

Women & Men

Regardless of how you identify, this work will meet you where you are and offer you the understanding and tools to create deep, passionate and secure relationships.

Single & Healing

Bad relationships can leave many scars… yet with the right nurturing and perspective, pain can be transformed into a beautiful blossoming and reawakening.

Your Intimacy Timeline

Psychology studies estimate that developing a secure attachment takes 2-5 years of consistent therapeutic work.

With the right support, practices and community, however, we believe that process can be accelerated.

The first 3 months

You start to really understand your attachment system and defence strategies. You learn how to be more vulnerable, regulate yourself, embody your boundaries and release some of the trauma holding you back.

3- 6 months

The weight of past trauma starts clearing from your body, you feel lighter. You are able to repair much more easily after conflict, stand for your own needs and bring yourself back to a regulated state when triggered.

6 - 12 months

Your triggers become positive healing experiences. Your boundaries are becoming more embodied and you are showing up increasingly open and authentic in intimacy.

1 - 2 years

Deeper attachment patterns start to surface as they are cleared permanently. Intimacy is more beautiful than ever before. You feel at ease being yourself, both giving and receiving love without defence.

The Secure Intimacy membership includes all of this:

Embodiment Gym

Attend live, or utilise the recording library. These classes are the foundation of this work. By practicing regularly you will find yourself less triggered, with stronger boundaries while letting go of past traumas.

Authentic Relating Classes

To have great relationships, we need great communication. This is really the starting point, it all grows from here.
Upgrade your relating skills by attending these facilitated, practice sessions.

Monthly Masterclasses

Every month we go deeper into understanding our attachment system and how to transform pain into security, and security into joy.
Join live or watch the recordings.

Guest Educators

Presentations, workshops and classes led by powerful healers and facilitators of transformative relational work. Attend sessions live or access the recording library.

Community of Peers

The community is your space. Meet people live in classes, continue the conversation in discussion and chat. Get your questions answered. Celebrate your growth. Evolve together. You are not alone!

Group Coaching

Drop-in and receive guidance on your unique challenges and growth path. Your input influences the direction in which this program unfolds. Your personal evolution matters.

Pre-Recorded Courses

Get immediate access to a catalogue of potent healing courses. Choose your own adventure, heal and grow in the direction that your soul is pulling you. More below.

And More…

This membership program is designed to also evolve. There is much more to be revealed… when we say “everything you need for Secure Intimacy”, we mean it.

Live classes in the Secure Intimacy membership

And you also get access to live drop in classes every week!
Learn the course content in an ongoing facilitated container.
Meet other community members.
Access ALL new material!

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And receive immediate access to all of the classes above, and so much more.


When your relationships heal, your life changes.

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"I’m starting to experience levels of intimacy I only dreamed were possible, in all my relationships and with myself. I see so many shifts in how my lover and I relate, the beauty of it makes me cry."

Rachel Bull

Somatic Guide

"I decided to do this work because I noticed that people who had, had changed dramatically for the better in their relating skills. Damien creates a space that is both edgy and safe, moving us beyond established paradigms... into new realms of relating and intimacy"

Andreas Notarpietro


"Damien’s work is an incredible study on the nature of intimacy & secure relating. He has a remarkable way of opening this field up to to new layers of insight that go far beyond the fairly fixed ideas we see in the mainstream. His work has hugely impacted my personal & professional practice as a devotee of the intimate arts and as a facilitator and coach."

Alex Mischka

Men’s Coach

"This has been a revelation that reshaped the way I connect with people. If you're seeking a journey of self-discovery, and want more fulfilling relationships, Evolve Relating is your compass. An investment in yourself that weaves transformative threads."

Denise Ferris


"I wish i had known 20 years ago that this work is soooo essential. My lover suddenly feels soft and surrendered in my clarity, safe in how i hold our container with her in mind...Beautiful, expanding, grounding....This is much needed on my life's journey... Highly recommend."

Patrick Wolf

Film work-flow Analyst

Pricing Options

Get immediate access to all courses, the community and all upcoming live classes

Secure Intimacy Membership
Create a foundation for intimacy

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Immediate access to 8 full courses
Group coaching sessions monthly
Monthly lectures & workshops
Authentic Relating & Embodiment classes
Interactive thriving community
And much more to come...

Enter a journey into creating the foundations for your deepest intimacy yet.

Secure Intimacy Coaching
Accelerate your growth & healing


Spots remaining
Everything included in the membership
All courses, live classes, community
Personalised guidance & mentoring
2 x 45 minutes 1:1 sessions per month
Private voice/text access
Be deeply supported on your journey

For those desiring more contact & an assisted path through the program.

Have any questions?

Secure Intimacy Couples Pass
A foundation for deep intimacy

Spots remaining
Shared access to all 8 courses
Weekly live practice classes
Monthly lectures & workshops
Group coaching sessions
Interactive thriving community
And so much more...

Enter a profound journey into creating a secure foundation for intimacy.

Secure Intimacy Couples Coaching
Deepen your relationship


Spots remaining
Double access to the membership
All courses, live classes, community
Personalised guidance & mentoring
1 x 1:1 session each + 1 x couples session per month
Private voice/text access for both partners
Be deeply supported on your relationship journey

For the couple desiring to go deeper

Have any questions?

Email us

Intimacy Package

Fill out this form to apply to work privately with Damien Bohler to develop your Secure Intimacy.

Let us know a little bit about you and where you are most wanting to grow. You will be contacted via email or message asap.

Price in $AU
8 Week live facilitated course
Authentic Relating Library
Online community
Afterpay available

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The educators, teachers, facilitators, presenters and guides that will be journeying with you...

Damien Bohler

Founder & Facilitator

Damien is the founder of Evolve Relating. He has been facilitating, teaching and coaching for 10+ years. His gift is in the synthesising of complex concepts into practical ways to grow. He weaves together authentic relating, attachment theory, polarity and awakening techniques into a holistic system of relational transformation.

Anna Jaaniste


With 2.5 decades of experience as a facilitator leading groups into play, discussion and creativity together, Anna has a passion for supporting people into delightful and fruitful interaction with themselves and others. Anna has been practicing Authentic Relating for 10 years and facilitating AR for 5 years. She is a counsellor and a practicing artist.

Philippe Lewis

Guest Presenter

Philippe Lewis is a passionate relationship educator and founder of Exquisite Love. With a mission to empower men and women in making informed and positive choices for themselves and their partners, Philippe guides individuals on a transformative journey to become sovereign beings.

Frequently Asked Questions

Your most common questions answered

How much time will it take to participate?

That's really up to you.

We've created this membership in a way that it can be as active an experience as you need it to be.

At minimum you could invest an 1-2 hours a week which would allow you to learn many of the principles, whether through courses or live classes, do some of the practices and participate in the community.

Or you can come to many of the classes and really immerse yourself in the experience.

However much you participate, the reality is you will be learning relational skills that you can apply to your day-to-day life, which is where the transformation will occur.

Can I join anytime?

Yes you can.

This membership is designed in a special way so that you can join anytime and find your feet quickly.

Our onboarding sequence guides you quickly into understanding your way around the platform, and where to start.

Everything inside the membership is interconnected.

The courses support each other, and the live classes support the courses.

Depending on when you join, there will be peers who have been in for a while to guide and support you, as you will be able to for others in time if you so choose.

When you are ready, we are here.

Can I meet people in this membership?


We are a respectful, polite and safe community... and we also encourage community.

You will meet people on live calls and in the chat and discussion spaces.

If you stay a while, you are certain to make friends, and maybe even meet someone who could be more...

Do you offer refunds?

No, there are no refunds.

You may cancel at any time, however.

However, we are certain you are going to want to stay once you get to fully experience what's inside! ;) 

Is it easy to cancel if it's not for me?

Yes, it's easy to cancel.

In our onboarding sequence we show you exactly how to manage your membership, and changing the payment frequency or ending your subscription is as easy as two clicks!

I live in ___ timezone, are there classes for me?


Most of our live sessions repeat at two different timezones that manage to cover most major areas across the US, Europe and Australasia.

As we grow, even more timezones and classes will become available.

How does the community work?

This is something we are very excited about!
There is an entire community platform dedicated to holding this container.

Forums, chat spaces, courses, classes, private messaging.. better than Facebook guaranteed!

The community is also moderated so that it is a truly safe and healing space for everyone.

Will I have lifetime access to the courses?

No, as this is subscription based.

You will only have access to the courses, live classes, community and recordings as long as you stay in the membership.

If you stay in the membership for more than 3 months though, when you do leave, you will be able to purchase any courses you'd like to retain access to for a discount

Are the live sessions recorded?

Most of them, yes.

Workshops, Lectures, Embodiment Gym and Guest Facilitator sessions are all recorded. Recordings available within 24 hours.

The only classes not recorded are the Authentic Relating classes and the community calls as these are primarily experiential and mostly take place in breakout rooms with a partner.

When will I receive access?


As soon as your payment is processed you will be able to create a profile in our community and access all courses straight away.

You will be able to RSVP and join any upcoming live classes, post and interact in the community and immerse yourself in the journey.

Life gets better when you are secure

The relationship you have been yearning for awaits you, will you be ready?